Lola Omotayo recently revealed at the Kinabuti
Dare2Dream Project in Lagos a secret part of her life to
help out young girls at the project.
Lola revealed that when she was in her secondary school
days, she was molested by a priest and she could not tell
anyone in her family.
She said that the situation repeated itself in a former
relationship before finally meeting Peter of P-Square and
then getting married.
Excerpts of her speech below…
“You shouldn’t let your past determine what your destiny
will be, we all have our past whether good or bad or makes
us unhappy, we all had a life that we lived that we are not
happy about, you shouldn’t let it bother you from
succeeding.
When I was a young girl in my early teens in high school, I
was molested by a catholic priest, i blamed myself, i didn’t
tell anyone because i was ashamed, couldn’t tell anyone cos
i felt everyone would blame me, so i carried on the guilt and
bitterness with me for years. I was filled with hate and i
became a angry person, i was rebellious, i didn’t want to
listen to anybody…and because i wanted to be expelled
from school to avoid seeing this person, i would do so many
terrible things, everything around me was just so negative, i
felt i wasn’t good enough….
Anyway i moved on to the university, met the love of my life
and i’m like, okay this guy is cool, he loves me…and then he
started to abuse me….i was beaten black and blue all the
time, in front of friends, in public and at a point i felt, you
know what I am not worthy enough, there is nothing about
me that is nice, nobody loves me but i hid this from my
family….i felt like a loser..so it was hard for me to focus..so
one day i woke up and said i am going to change my story
and i dumped that person, focus on my education and
decided to be serious and be something….i decided to get a
job and go to school full time in America…
I worked hard…my parents were sending me money cos I
didn’t tell them i was working but i was working because i
wanted to be independent…I didn’t want to depend on any
man or on my parents even though they would have done
anything for me…so i did all sorts of job, i was a make up
artiste, i worked in a cafe, school library, i did so many
things and i didn’t realise that these jobs were building me
up as a person, building my resume, my
confidence….people began to like me because i was adding
value to their lives….at work i was excellent and so was i in
school and that built me as a strong woman…and at some
point, i sought counseling to get over my molestation issues
where i was made to see reasons why i wasn’t at fault cos i
was a child then…today I am accomplished.
You can be whatever woman you want to be but you have to
believe in yourself, if they reject you today, it doesn’t mean
you should let your dreams die, you have something unique
about you.
Look at my husband, when i met him peeps were like what
are you doing with him, he has nothing but i stood my
ground and choose to stick with him cos he had a dream. He
and his twin brother did not let their dream die, they
worked hard..look at them today! I stuck by him cos he had
focus and drive and today i am happy, i have a good life, we
are happy and we have got a beautiful family. No one can
make you a loser.”
Lola is married to Peter Okoye of the P-square fame, they
have two kids together
Wednesday 17 December 2014
IN SECONDARY SCHOOL,I WAS MOLESTED BY. PRIEST-LOLA OMOTAYO
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